Comparison is a form of rejection
A comparison is a form of rejection. This hit different for me because I never thought of it in that way, I always thought comparing meant one thing better from the other simple right? But life and its wonder are everything but simple. The nuances are most times more important than the hard-hitting polarizing edges. There is no harm in comparing things as long as you know what it means when you compare. When you compare one thing to the other, you are saying yes to this and no to that, rejecting one of them. But we do not only compare things only, however, we spend most of our time comparing a plethora of things but I will stick to people and lives.
Comparing someone to someone else
Why aren’t you like your brother/sister? Your brother/sister has accomplished this and that, what about you. You should be more like him/her. The list goes on but I will spare you. These words come from people who truly care for us at times, but in comparing they are rejecting the individuality that you pose. You aren’t your brother/sister you are you, with different strengths and weaknesses. So what happens after being rejected you push back and build a dislike for the person or the thing that was the basis of the comparison. I have a friend who deliberately disliked school because it was the main place she was compared with her brother in performance.
Comparing your life to others
As we get older we start to see everyone around us move on at different speeds, it’s like a horse race. Sadly sometimes your horse is last and you watch everyone you know to get ahead of you. Job, marriage, car if you into those things, house, and you still just trying to get something consistent going. You know everyone has to run their race but you can’t help but compare where you are and how far they have gone. This is perfectly normal. Comparing yourself to others means you are rejecting yourself. Rejecting you kills your confidence and also removes the focus from you to other people’s lives. And slowly over time, you lose yourself chasing a life that wasn’t meant for you (That got deep real quick).
So the next time you find yourself comparing things think about what you are saying yes to but most importantly what or who you are rejecting. Thanks for reading this far.
