Why we love the predictable

After loosing my job I find myself lost in many things, not knowing what to do with myself and which direction to go. But I didn’t like my job, I wanted to quit but I never really got to it. why didn’t I quit and now that I got what I wanted why does it not seem as good as I thought it would. The simple answer is that we are all not that stable well we like to think we are, and are always swinging between all kinds of emotions, desires, needs and wants that it is only right that when we find something stable a predictable we are inevitably drawn to it and stick to it.

I just want to know

Knowing how something will go gives us some confidence and some peace of mind that makes us feel much better about everything around us. For example I didn’t like my job but I stuck to it cause I knew how my day would go, wake up go to work, do work I don’t like , get bored sneakily, watch Youtube videos fake motivate myself watch the clock run to half passed 5 then done. The next day it just repeats over and over and over again. But I still stayed there cause I knew what would happen, I knew how my time was going to be spent and in knowing I got this sense of control almost like I could see into the future.

Truth

After I was let go I found myself lost, there was no script to what was to come, like i was dropped into a foreign place without internet and told to find my way. not having something regular and predictable killed my confidence.

This is the same feeling we get when we transition from being in a relationship to not being in one, From having an income to not having an income from being in school to not being in school, we crave predictability, regularity and repetitiveness because we ourselves seldom are these things.

You can fix this

So back to my unemployment, I found myself immediately searching for any jobs I could find just to have that feeling of knowing but then I realized I could create the same regularity and without the mundaneness.

Quick warning though, in our search for consistency and predictability. entertainment has become our escape, I am guilty of delving into hours of a video games to numb the effects of the erupting volcano I call my life. The idea of knowing what will happen and when is truly wanted in all of us but we have to be responsible where and how we meet that need.

The best to fix this, by the way I’m not an expert I’m just figuring it out as I go too like who really is an expert on life, don’t answer that. The way that works for me is to come up with your own routine whether it is a workout or reading routine and also working on habits like even making the bed. Doing small predictable actions gives us confidence to take on the lesser known events in our lives.

I know I know I know

Others will argue the point of being comfortable with being uncomfortable. that is true but even in that you will need to establish some forms of regularity in your life whether it is by a daily routine or relationships.

Thanks for reading hope I didn’t butcher the point I was trying to get across