When the helping starts hurting
Some people just can’t help but help. That one person on campus or at work who carries the new people under their wing and shows them the ropes. Takes on a guardian angel figure, you can rely on them to help you out with anything. They just always seem to have the time to be there when you need them. I am was or is that guy. Helping people has so many benefits that if they were put in a word document it would be MBs big. We help cause we care and have been there in that situation and wished someone could have given us that boost, that assistance.
The one drawback about helping, like anything good for you food, drinks, sleep, Netflix, Playstation, anime, and the occasional books too much will kill you. In plain English, too much help starts to hurt the beneficiary and then you. Think about. Let it marinate…A simple example is let’s say you you helping someone learn their way around town. The first time you go with them, help them know the streets and get comfortable. They come back the second time saying they aren’t too sure and are afraid they may get lost so you go with them again. The third time comes along and you do the same. Now you start getting frustrated but you do not want them to get lost so you go again. This is all great but now you helping them is preventing them from taking the crucial steps to be confident enough to go on their own. On top of that, it is taking your time and frustrating.
Knowing when to stop giving help or pulling the breaks isn’t some Ultra-instinct Avatar Sage mode ability. It takes you just being aware, and asking yourself if what you are doing is helping or hurting this person. And sure enough, if you do not want this person to become completely dependent on you, you can answer this honestly.
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